I love the subject of meekness, and how it slow closely ties with wisdom. The honest truth is that not many people have meekness. With recent rises in racial tension, election season hysteria, and the phenomenon of social media where everyone verbalizes (via text, so without being able to perceive the heart or emotions behind the opinion) their deepest frustrations and anger, we believers need to model meekness more now than ever. It is a very hard biblical trait to maintain, and in fact, according to my friend Dean Burris, Jesus and Moses are the only two men in the bible directly described as meek. I once heard pastor Dean teach on Matthew 5:5, “Blessed are the meek”, where we are admonished to be meek, and I want to share some of the good stuff I got from that: his points, my commentary.
Ultimately, joy and happiness are attained through a healthy and consistent possession of many spiritual qualities that God has told us to uphold. One of the most important qualities a believer could have is meekness. What is meekness? Meekness is power put under control. A meek person is not a weak person, but a very strong and wise person who knows how to manage and control their actions. Dean also spoke of some daily applications regarding meekness, and I’ll talk about a few. To have meekness in your daily life, here are some things to keep in mind.
1. When someone disappoints you, be gentle, not judgmental. It’s sometimes hard to show mercy and compassion to those who hurt and disappoint us, especially when we are in the right and could come down pretty hard on them. But God says in Romans 14:1 to “accept him who is weak in the faith without passing judgment on disputable matters.” We should be able to walk hand in hand without seeing eye to eye. Find mercy and forgiveness in your heart for those that disappoint you.
2. When someone disagrees with you, be tender without surrender. Someone who is wise will take heed to this point and practice it. When you disagree with someone, meekness says that we shouldn’t throw fuel on the fire and stoke the flames by cunningly trying to argue to win, but suppress the heat by using gentle and wisely chosen words. James 3 says that the tongue starts these large heated debates that we have amongst each other anyway. Likewise the tongue can help put out the fire. Proverbs 15:1 says “A gentle answer quiets anger; but a harsh word stirs it up.”
3. When someone corrects you, be teachable, not unreachable. Pride puts a damper on this one. Some folks can never get past the point that they are wrong about something. I am sometimes this way, which is why I love having my wife around. It is great for us to sharpen ourselves on each other, having honest conversations about areas in our lives that are sub par. To have accountability, you must be teachable and reachable. The unreachable person always points blame towards others when they are confronted with a problem. If you’re unreachable, you can’t have accountability, and where there’s no Christian accountability every type of evil and confusion can set in. Listen to this quote, “I’d rather change my mind and succeed than have my own way and fail.” This should be all of our attitudes.
Lastly, 4. When someone hurts you, be an actor, not a reactor. This is the “turn the other cheek” idea that we all talk about. This takes incredible self control, and is the cornerstone of meekness. It’s taking our powerful emotions, and instead of reacting naturally to a person who offends, we remain calm and in control of ourselves. In struggling with people showing prejudice against him, Booker T. Washington said this, “I will never let another man control and rule my life by making me hate him.” There are two things that will control your emotions, your circumstances or your character. Let meekness be a trait that you master, and let the character and integrity of your Christian life govern you as you deal with friends, family, coworkers, and classmates. This is just a small part of the big picture of living the life of holiness Christ called us to live. Meekness; it’s power under control. Do you have it?
Blessed are the meek,